The positive list is wonderful, and on the pages you shared, I also appreciate the 'Stop' method to get oneself off of a negative and allow a space to reframe thoughts to positive or at least create a distraction until more positive thoughts can arrive and perhaps thrive.
I spent much time when younger fretting on what something might have been, or could be - in a negative, fearful way. At some point I realized things were rarely that bad and fretting used all my energy so it was tough to face things when they were actually difficult. Along with the 'stop - look here instead' I also used a 'worry vacation,' which I suppose is something like the 'schedule time to worry' but - as a baby-step coping skill - I decided I WOULD NOT worry for short bursts of time. Eventually those became longer until I rarely get caught up in it anymore. I suppose meditation creates that worry-free space for some people. I found it good to choose to positively create something in those spaces.
Oh, my goodness! The Ukranian proverb reminds me of the time my parents send my little brother to work diggng a hole in the driveway with a teaspoon to earn the money to buy the Tonka truck he wanted.
The positive list is wonderful, and on the pages you shared, I also appreciate the 'Stop' method to get oneself off of a negative and allow a space to reframe thoughts to positive or at least create a distraction until more positive thoughts can arrive and perhaps thrive.
I spent much time when younger fretting on what something might have been, or could be - in a negative, fearful way. At some point I realized things were rarely that bad and fretting used all my energy so it was tough to face things when they were actually difficult. Along with the 'stop - look here instead' I also used a 'worry vacation,' which I suppose is something like the 'schedule time to worry' but - as a baby-step coping skill - I decided I WOULD NOT worry for short bursts of time. Eventually those became longer until I rarely get caught up in it anymore. I suppose meditation creates that worry-free space for some people. I found it good to choose to positively create something in those spaces.
What a beautiful idea to make an alphabet of your favourite things at the times of stress.
Oh, my goodness! The Ukranian proverb reminds me of the time my parents send my little brother to work diggng a hole in the driveway with a teaspoon to earn the money to buy the Tonka truck he wanted.